Thursday, May 31, 2007
Busted, part 3
I don't know about you but I am sick and tired of stars (Hollywood as well as athletes) who get in trouble and are glamorized by the press. In spite of this, this recent transgression by Ms. Lohan can teach us something.
While I don't consider Lindsay Lohan to be a role model, as Christians in the workplace, I do consider each of us to be one. As a result, we are held to a higher standard, and we should be. We are ambassadors for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20) so let's act like it!
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Angry Horn
The Bible tells us throughout to be an encouragement to others. Let's do that not only through our words but also through our non-verbals.
Friday, May 25, 2007
Goals
Thursday, May 24, 2007
Your Serve
I asked him how he and his wife were doing and he said, "It seems like she is a little more tender-hearted toward me as a result of all this." I asked why he thought this was and he said it probably had to do with the way he was serving her.
What a great lesson for each and every one of us to use in all our relationships, especially if you are a leader. The greatest Leader of all time, Jesus said that He "did not come to be served, but to serve."
Who can you serve today? You might find that your service toward that person really improves your relationship.
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
How to Handle a Bad Boss
Monday, May 21, 2007
Busted, part 2
However, over the weekend, I received a surprise in the mail. Apparently my town is now using cameras to catch people speeding and I was one of their victims. They have been using cameras to catch red light violations but this method to catch you speeding was news to me.
I was with my family at an event put on by Impact World Tour (a Christian outreach event) and it was pretty loud. My 10 year-old son has very sensitive ears so he asked if I would run out to get ear plugs for him so I did. I was in a hurry to get back so I wouldn't miss too much. Even though my motives were pure - I was trying to serve my son and we were at a Christian event - I was busted! I guess no matter what your motives, if you violate the rules, you must pay the consequences.
God sure does have a sense of humor and I have learned a $95 lesson.
Friday, May 18, 2007
Gossip
Zig Ziglar comes through again with another great article - this one about gossip:
We frequently hear little jokes about gossip, like the two people who were talking and one said, "I can't tell you any more. I've already told you more than I heard." In that line is much of the tragedy about gossip, which can and often has destroyed a person's reputation. Gossip always damages relationships and specifically with the person you are gossiping about. For example, once you have said something unkind about a person, you will feel uncomfortable around him or her and your relationship will suffer.
Dr. Adrian Rogers wisely points out that before we disseminate information that might be considered gossip, we must carefully ponder three questions:
(1) Is it the truth? If it fails the first test, then it is not repeatable.
(2) Even if it is the truth, do you really need to share it? Will it help anyone? Will it hurt anyone? Would it be better left unsaid? If there are no benefits to anyone, then what possible purpose could repeating it serve?
(3) Is it kind? In our world so full of cynicism and skepticism, will repeating this story be kind? Can it be better left unsaid? Would you really be better off repeating this information?
When you analyze it this way, your chances of being a gossiper are dramatically reduced. When you consider the benefits of stopping gossip in its tracks, you'll discover they're substantial.
First, you do not damage yourself, which means that your reputation and esteem are untarnished. That's good. Second, you won't harm someone else's reputation. This means that your circle of friends will be larger. Since most of us do not have any friends we would like to lose, that's good!
Think about it and I'll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!
This article is adapted from Zig's book, Something Else To Smile About. For more information on all of Zig's books click here.
Thursday, May 17, 2007
Not My Job!
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
Busted
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Leading Up?
Leading up is the 360° leader’s greatest challenge. We’re accustomed to influence flowing from the top down, and, for that reason, leading up feels like running uphill. True enough, leading up requires extra effort. To exert influence upon those in authority above us calls for boldness, respect, and sacrifice. In the long run, the extra effort will distinguish you from the rest of the pack. Jack Welch calls this “getting out of the pile.” The following suggestions are ways to successfully catch the attention of those at the top.
To lead up, increase your value by helping to lift your leader’s load. Try to anticipate what your leader needs and wants. Occasionally, you may even approach your leader and ask, “What can I do for you today?” Always remember: when the boss succeeds, the organization succeeds. Ultimately, you can’t succeed if your boss fails.
Be sure to do your own job well before you concentrate on lifting your leader’s load. If you drop your personal responsibilities, you’ll drag your leader down rather than propping them up.
When you find a problem, provide a solution. If you only identify what is broken, you look no different than a complainer. Show initiative by repairing the problems you encounter.
Stand up for your leader whenever you can. Don’t become party to backbiting or criticism. Speak highly of your leaders and diffuse the negativity others may show toward them.
Caring – Take an interest in people. People always move toward anyone who increases them and away from anyone who decreases them.
Friday, May 11, 2007
Happy Mother's Day
Thursday, May 10, 2007
Management and Youth Soccer
No, I'm not referring to the NFL draft that took place in April, or the NBA edition in June. I'm talking about the Mustang Boys' Under-nine Soccer draft in Danville, California. That's right. As ridiculous as it sounds, I'm talking about eight-year-old boys, third graders, actually getting drafted to play "competitive soccer." And the process by which they're evaluated, rated, and selected is a sight to see.
Imagine a soccer field surrounded by clipboard-toting coaches (myself included) who are taking detailed notes as they watch little boys run and kick and dribble and scrimmage against one another. Afterward, those coaches sit down around a table and take turns selecting twelve players for their respective teams.
Luckily for me, I don't know a great deal about soccer. I played very little of the sport as a grade-schooler, though I've coached my sons' six- and seven-year-old teams. But to be fair, the nature of the game played by my boys' pee wee teams more closely resembled a revolt within a prison than it did a sporting event.
I say that I'm lucky to be ignorant of soccer because it forced me to confront a brutal fact: I was going to be at a distinct competitive disadvantage when it came to assessing the technical skills of the munchkins on my list of draftable players. You see, the other coaches in the league have all played soccer at collegiate, professional, or semi-professional levels, and they appreciate the nuances of the sport the way I do basketball or baseball. They are the type of people who not only understand the offside rule, but actually like it!
Anyway, to mitigate my soccer naiveté, I made a decision that was motivated mostly out of desperation, with a little inspiration mixed in. In essence, I decided to completely change the criteria I would use to evaluate and select players for my team (which, by the way, is called The Swarm).
So, I took the official evaluation form that was given to me before the tryouts and crossed out the provided category descriptions like "speed," "field awareness," "touch," and "power," and replaced them with others like "attitude," "hustle," "skill," and "parents." Of course, that meant I would have to focus on observing different things than my peers would be looking for during the tryouts.
For instance, instead of spending most of my time looking at the players' feet, I tended to watch how they treated one another. I wanted to see how they responded when the instructor asked them to help move one of the portable goals or a bag of soccer balls to the other side of the field. I also watched the way they interacted with their parents during breaks. Were they respectful or inattentive? And I wanted to see how hard they played on the field. Did they only run when the ball came to them, or did they get involved and help out on defense?
During breaks I might slyly approach one of the kids and ask, "Hey there Billy, how do you like school?" or "What's your favorite subject?" And I was looking for someone who would say, "Yeah, I like school a lot," or "I like math, but not spelling so much." What I didn't want was a blank stare or an answer like "Nah, the only thing I like is recess."
Anyway, when the tryouts were over, my assistant coach (who never played or coached soccer before) and I ranked the players from top to bottom, according to our largely attitudinal criteria. When the draft began, we nervously waited our turn. By the time the draft had ended, we had picked more of our top "prospects" than we could have imagined, and assembled a team that we felt had a very high likelihood of being positive and coachable.
Now, don't misunderstand this philosophy of mine for altruism or nobility. I have a competitive streak too, and I wanted our team to be successful. Certainly, I value character-building and fitness more than winning, but I didn't want to field a team full of nice kids who couldn't score goals. And I would be lying if I said we didn't pay any attention to the basic athletic ability of the players we selected. But those skills took a distant back seat to attitude and demeanor.
As the season approached, my assistant coach and I wondered how much talent we had on the team. We hoped we'd have at least one good goalie and a few natural scorers. By the time our first practiced was upon us, we didn't know what to expect. So we crossed our fingers, skimmed through Soccer For Dummies, and began the season.
That was six weeks ago. As of the writing of this article, we've played a little less than half of our games, and a few things have become crystal clear to us.
First, our team is a team. They treat each other well, encourage one another, and seek out collective attention more than individual praise. Second, they're having fun. They don't complain about practices, and they enjoy being together. Third, their parents are having fun. Many of them have approached me and my assistant coach to tell us how pleasantly surprised they are about the positive environment on the team, and how much they enjoy being on the sidelines with the other parents.
What about the soccer? So far, so good. We've only lost three of thirteen games, and we've outscored our opponents 24-7. Of course, that is not near as important as the other factors (I have to keep reminding myself and the other parents about that), but it's a nice confirmation that our attitudinal approach is as viable on the field as it is off of it. It will be interesting to see how the team handles itself when we inevitably lose a few games in a row.
I'd like to say that this early success of the team is a result of great coaching and tactical training. But that just isn't the case. The fact is, as Jim Collins points out in Good to Great, getting the right people on the bus is the first critical step toward building a great organization of any kind.
Once the bus is full, then it's all about getting the right people in the right seats (or in our case, the right players in the right positions). But selecting the people who fit your culture, whether they are eight-year-old soccer players, senior executives, teachers, or church volunteers, is the first critical step.
Why? Because it's a lot easier to teach a humble, hard-working young man how to play goalie than it is to teach a spectacular athlete how to listen and put the team before himself. I'm guessing that applies to the organization where you work. Not the goalie part. Well, you know what I mean.
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
Just Text Me!
Zig Ziglar also wrote something on this topic:
In America there is growing concern about the dramatic increase in the use of text messaging to communicate with others. Admittedly, in many cases there would be no communication at all if it were not for text messaging. But the reality is we miss a great deal if that’s all we do. To provide specific information about the whereabouts or activities is probably okay, but Charles Osgood, the CBS word merchant, expressed it quite well when he said, “Compared to the spoken word a picture is a pitiful thing indeed.” It’s one thing to tell someone you love him or her in a text message; it’s quite another thing to give that person a call and say, “Just thinking about you…wanted you to know that I admire you a great deal and I love you very much.”
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
IMPEDERSHIP
Friday, May 04, 2007
Mom Needs a Raise
If you are a stay at home mom, you will like this story. If you are married to a stay at home mom, you might want to thank her again for all she does.
Annual amount she’d earn as a housekeeper, cook and psychologist
NEW YORK - If the typical stay-at-home mother in the United States were paid for her work as a housekeeper, cook and psychologist among other roles, she would earn $138,095 a year, according to research released Wednesday.
This reflected a 3 percent raise from last year’s $134,121, according to Salary.com Inc , Waltham, Massachusetts-based compensation experts.
For the rest of the article go here.
Thursday, May 03, 2007
The Strike Out
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
Developing an Abundant Mind
Years ago at a New Year’s Eve celebration, we were part of an intimate gathering of friends in a home. All of us had just come through a difficult year and none of us felt like celebrating. That’s partly why we came together - for support. The host suggested we go around the room and share one significant thing the Lord had done for us that year. As we called to mind the good report and shared it with the group, our bones were made strong! Our faith was lifted! Our hope was restored! Our mind had been filled with abundance. It wasn’t long before it showed up in our natural lives. Whose report are you listening to? Which one will you believe?
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Philippians 4:8
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Winning the Battle but Losing the War
On leading blog, the following insight was shared about knowing when to not press your position:
In Pearls of Wisdom, Joyce Brothers wrote, “There is a rule in sailing where the more maneuverable ship should give way to the less maneuverable craft. I think this is sometimes a good rule to follow in human relationships as well.” Relationships are what leadership is all about. As the leader we are the more maneuverable ship. Being immovable or stubborn, just because we are right, doesn’t move us closer to our goal. It is up to us to step back, bend, or give way and let the other person pass. Later we might try a different tack if it is really that important to make the point. Hitting a difficult person head on is rarely the appropriate action.
When we come up against conflict, we must ask ourselves if winning this one is really that important. How will winning affect my ability to work with this person? What is motivating me to win? We don’t need to fight every battle. We should choose battles that in the final analysis will strengthen our relationships and improve our effectiveness.
How true - and how difficult this is! As leaders, lets agree to work on this in our workplace - and in our homes!