Leading By Example

One of my favorite Ohio State Buckeye sites is Bucknuts.com. Jerry Rudzinski, a former Buckeye player writes a column every now and then. Recently he wrote about James Laurinaitis, the talented Junior linebacker for the Buckeyes. Last week James made the decision to pass up millions of dollars in the NFL to stay in school for his Senior season.

Accountability and credibility. That is what makes a great captain. James lives both accountability and credibility. As a captain addresses the team and states “team” and “sacrifice” and “unselfishness” and a death-to-self attitude, you want somebody accountable to those words. James led by actions (see Butkus Award), but he also vocally guided the Buckeyes to yet another Big Ten Championship. It is not lip service when he asks for a team-first mentality.

If that guy is captain of my team, you bet I am working my tail off to contribute everyway possible. Laurinaitis did not take the natural path to the riches of the NFL. Even Coach Tressel publicly commented that it made sense for guys like James to leave early.

Think about the situation this offseason – “I am a sophomore for the Buckeyes. It is 90 degrees outside in mid-July. We have to run gassers after a tough lift. James is running right next to me. He won the Butkus. He won Big Ten Championships. He has played in two straight National Championship games. By the way, he just turned down literally tens of millions of dollars to come back for this 2008 season. Gee, do you think I should make my times or should I quit and just go through the motions because I’m so tired?”

I’d really like to see the guy that could look James in the eye during the next 12 months after not giving it everything they had.

Isn't that true? James Laurinaitis will have a big impact on others simply because of his presence. He has shown an unselfishness in this decision. He has shown he cares about his teammates. He has shown he wants to work hard so the team can have success. He has shown how to be a solid citizen and how to love the Lord during this process (He said that he leaned on the Lord to help him with this decision). He is truly a leader--one who leads by example.

Everyone Lies At Least Four Times A Day

LONDON — Far from being exclusive to hangover sufferers excusing themselves from work, being economic with the truth appears to be a way of life for just about everyone.

Each of us, according to a new survey by a British beverage firm, will tell an average total of 88,000 lies over the course of our lives.

According to the firm's poll of 2,500 men and women, "Nothing is wrong, I'm fine" tops what it says is a lengthy list of common lies.

That's 1,460 untruths a year or more than four in every day of an average, 60-year adult lifetime.

Other favorites include, "No, your bottom doesn't look big in that," to a wife or girlfriend; "Of course I love you," to a boring spouse or partner; and "This tastes delicious."

To read the rest of the article click here.

When I read the headline of this article, I said, "Well that doesn't apply to me." Then when I read the article, I said, "Maybe it does. I do tell white lies from time to time."

So what do you think about telling "white" lies? Is this OK? If so, under what circumstances is it acceptable?

Integrity

A minister told his congregation, "Next week I plan to preach about the sin of lying. To help you understand my sermon, I want you all to read Mark 17."

The following Sunday, as he prepared to deliver his sermon, the minister asked for a show of hands. He wanted to know how many had read Mark 17. Every hand went p.

The minister smiled and said, "Mark has only sixteen chapters. I will now proceed with my sermon on the sin of lying."

This is pretty humorous because we can see the truth in it in ourselves and in others we know. We all have told a "white lie" or "stretched the truth" before. So what's the big deal?

One of the core traits that most people look for in a leader is honesty and integrity. In a survey run by Ajilon Professional Staffing, they discovered that honesty and integrity were far ahead of any other traits desired in a leader.

I have heard it said that one way to describe integrity is who you are when no one is looking. So how is your integrity?

Prayer At Work

Last night at church I was talking with Steve who told me about a tough situation he has been having at work. It seems his boss is somewhat of a tyrant and is making their work environment very unhealthy.

This is something I can definitely relate to (If you don't know why, see Bleedership, Biblical First-Aid for Leaders).

Anyway, Steve mentioned he was seriously considering quitting. He then decided months ago to spend some quiet time with God to see if He would provide some direction to him. Steve said he felt God was telling him to stick it out and be a positive influence. So that's what he did.

He went to work and gathered other Christians and they began a regular time of prayer for their boss. He said it has been amazing what has happened. Over the past four months his boss has started to come around and has even apologized to him!

What a great testimony! Thanks for your example Steve!

The Dash

Several months ago I wrote in my monthly Bleedership newsletter about our dash--that time between our birth and our death and how we choose to spend it. This is what I wrote:

I read something somewhere that really stuck with me. It was a story about a man who had a revelation while sitting in a cemetery where a loved one was buried. He looked around at all the tomb stones and he noticed how each one was very similar.

Each marker told a story. It told the person’s name, their date of birth and their date of death. Some even had a brief sentence such as “A loving husband and father” which inadequately tried to describe the life of that person.

The man began to think of all the untold stories contained in each tomb stone. They each told of the beginning (date of birth) followed by a dash and then the end for that person on earth; however, what happened in between? The man thought, what was in that dash for each of these people?

Then it hit him. We all are living in our dash right now! That little line, that seemingly insignificant hyphen is our very significant life.

So, how is your dash looking? Are you truly living a life worth living in that little line between your birth date and your date of death? Remember – it is your choice!

The reason I bring this up is that two different friends sent me a link to a three minute movie that talks about this very subject. I hope you enjoy! Click here.

Decision Making

Have you ever had a tough decision to make? Has it been easy to do? If you are like me the answer is "no." I sometimes struggle with little decisions.

One of my favorite speakers, Zig Ziglar shared some great advice on how he makes decisions:

If you find it difficult to make decisions, or you worry that your decisions are not good decisions, or you lack the confidence to make decisions in a timely manner . . . you're not alone! Many people express their concerns about their decision-making abilities. But if you ask them, "What's your routine for making decisions?" they often will tell you they don't have one. Truthfully they do, but they don't recognize it, or they don't like it. Their decisions are based on SOMETHING, and if they stop and think about it they'll discover what it is. However, it's much better to purposefully and thoughtfully develop your decision-making system, and then follow it whenever you need to make decisions.

If you ask Zig Ziglar how he makes decisions, he'll tell you that he follows some basic rules. Here they are, in his own words:

1. If I'm really tired, I don't make significant decisions (except in emergencies).

2. If someone is pressing me to decide something "right now," unless an immediate decision is critical, I say, "If I have to decide now, the answer is no. After I have had a chance to catch my breath and review the facts, there's the possibility it could be yes." Then I put the ball back in his or her court and ask, "Do you want my decision now, or should we wait?"

3. I like to determine the maximum benefit of a decision, assuming that everything goes my way. Then I ask, "Suppose nothing goes my way? Suppose this doesn't develop and materialize as I expect it to? What is my maximum exposure? What would I lose?"

4. For significant business-related decisions, I run them past my advisors. These people are successful in their businesses and professions and have a considerable amount of knowledge, experience, and wisdom, all of which are musts in the decision-making process. I get their advice and follow their recommendations, with good results in most cases. If the decision is too minor to involve my advisors but I still want input, I get my family together to look at the pros and cons.

5. I like to pray about my decisions. I ask God to help me see the truth of my motives and to lead me in the way I should go. If I'm about to make an unwise decision, I simply don't have peace about that decision, and I consequently act on that feeling of unease. I ask myself, "How will this decision affect all the areas of my life--personal, family, career, financial, physical, mental and spiritual?" Obviously, not all decisions affect all areas, but if the decision involves a financial reward but also carries considerable family sacrifice, for example, I think carefully as to whether what I give up is compensated for by what I gain. One final note: Prioritize your decisions. Some are more urgent than others!

New Year's Resolutions

How are you doing with your New Year's resolution? A friend of mine sent this to me regarding some great thoughts and goals for the upcoming year. You don't even have to wait until January 1 of next year to do these, you can do them now!

1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3.) Buy a Tivo (DVR), tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4.) When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to________today.'
5.) Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6.) Watch more movies, play more games and read more books than you did last year.
7.) Always pray and make time to exercise.
8.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6 (six)
9.) Dream more while you are awake.
10.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less foods that are manufactured in plants.
11.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13.) Clear your clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14.) Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15.) Realize that life is a school and that you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class.......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17.) Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
18.) Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
19.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20.) Don't take your self so seriously. No one else does.
21.) You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22.) Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
23.) Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24.) Ladies - Go on and burn those 'special' scented candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good china and wear your fancy lingerie now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Everyday is special.
25.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26.) Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
27.) Forgive everyone for everything.
28.) What other people think of you is none of your business.
29.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!
30.) However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31.) Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.
32.) Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
33.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. God provides remember?
34.) The best is yet to come.
35.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
36.) Do the right thing!
37.) Call your family often.
38.) Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: 'I am thankful for __________.' Today I accomplished _________.39.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
40.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

Great advice!

Good Boss, Bad Boss. Which Are You?

Those of you who have read my book, Bleedership, Biblical First-Aid for Leaders know that I had a very difficult boss. As a result of that experience, my radar is finely tuned to pick up examples of other "bad bosses" or tips on how to avoid being a bad boss.

A NY Times article got my attention with their headline, "Good Boss, Bad Boss. Which Are You?"

According to the article, to find out how good — or bad — a boss you are, the National Federation of Independent Business, a small business advocacy group, suggests asking yourself these questions:

1. Have you ever publicly criticized an employee?
2. Do you take credit for your employees’ work?
3. Do your employees fear you?
4. Do you expect employees to do what you tell them without question?
5. Do you believe employees should know what to do without you telling them or providing guidelines?
6. Are you a yeller?
7. Do you demean employees as a form of punishment?
8. Do you play favorites?
9. Do you hate delegating?
10. Do you check everyone’s work?

According to the answer key, the more “yes” answers, the greater the likelihood you are a bad boss.

So how do you score?

I'm Sorry

This morning I had a breakfast meeting. I am working in my home office today so I came home after my meeting just before my son, Robbie was getting on the bus for school. He came to me and gave me a big hug and said "I'm sorry." I asked him what he was sorry for and he said, "for they way I acted yesterday." (He had done some things yesterday that required us to remove some privileges from him for a few days.)

I told him I forgave him. But for some reason I was deeply touched. The hug felt great but I think I was really moved by the way he said he was sorry. I could tell he really meant it--that he was showing humility.

Humility is also a great trait for a leader to have. Robbie's apology reminded me that one of the greatest things a leader can say is "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong."

Playing To An Audience Of One

I have to admit, one of the things I am most disappointed about in Ohio State's second consecutive title game loss is the perception they have nationally. I am sick and tired of hearing how inferior Ohio State and the rest of the Big Ten Conference is based on two games.

Pat Forde of ESPN actually wrote that should Ohio State qualify for the game next year, they should be banned (read article here).

I am also hearing criticism of Coach Jim Tressel, even from some Buckeye fans. This is a guy who is 30-3 in has last 33 games. That is remarkable. In addition, his top ranked team last year faced 3 #2 ranked teams in the same season (never done before in college football) and won two of those games. Coach Tressel definitely has this team in the right position.

In fact, this years team was picked by most "experts" to finish fourth in the Big Ten! They lose very few seniors so the future is very bright. Leadership is key and that is what Coach Tressel has brought, Christ-centered leadership--and the Buckeye nation is better for it.

As for the nay-sayers. Let 'em keep yapping. If you are doing the right things and pleasing God (and I believe Coach Tressel is), you can't worry about what others say.

Dissapointment in the Bayou

Much to my chagrin, the Buckeyes were drilled again in the BCS Championship game. However, this year, they played much better, out gaining the LSU Tigers; however, penalties and turnovers killed Ohio State and LSU took advantage and made plays when they had to.

This morning I kept replaying plays over in my head and saying, "If only we wouldn't had that penalty. If only we would have caught that ball. If only we would have blocked that punt rather than roughing their kicker..."

If only. Life is full of if onlys. But that's life. We must play with the hand we are dealt and make the best of it. And that's what it appears the Buckeyes are doing.

OSU linebacker Marcus Freeman had this to say, "There were a lot of mistakes and a lot of penalties that occurred that definitely hurt this football team, but take nothing from LSU, they were doing a great job of what they were doing today." No excuses, just telling it like it is.

In any event, it sure is good to be a Buckeye!

Leading By Example

I wrote last time about a coach who is a great role model--someone who really leads by example, Jim Tressel. Another coach who was also very successful and also led his team by example was John Wooden, the great basketball coach from UCLA. He is perhaps the most successful coach ever and one of the reasons was the way he led.

Here are some words of wisdom from his book, Coach Wooden One on One:

I began smoking during World War II. I'd quit during basketball season—stopping on my birthday in October and starting again when the season ended. I never smoked in front of the boys. I finally quit to improve my example. I was convicted. I couldn't expect my players not to do what I was doing.

A leader's most powerful ally is his own example. There's hypocrisy to the phrase "Do as I say, not as I do." I refused to make demands on my boys that I wasn't willing to live out in my own life. Hypocrisy undermines respect, and if people don't respect you, they won't willingly follow you. One of my players complimented me greatly when he said, "Coach, you walked the talk."

Do you walk the talk?

Calm Leadership

One of the chapter titles in my book, Bleedership, Biblical First-Aid for Leaders is "Calm Leadership." No one I know of exhibits calm leadership better than Jim Tressel, head football coach at Ohio State.

In a reprint of an article in the Columbus Dispatch, I read this comment made by Doug Datish, a starting offensive lineman on last year's team:

"I don't know if it takes any pressure off, but I think it gives us that sense of--being able to watch him and learn from him over these past five years, it is something I admire about him and try to do myself, and I think other guys on the team try to do the same thing. And I think as you see him exuding that type of confidence and that calm he has about him, it is really something to marvel at, and something that really helps you out."

When you you as a leader act calm in the midst of a storm, it helps the whole team. I sure hope that is the case Monday night! Go Bucks!

Swimming In Jello

A couple of days ago I was driving my 11 year-old son, Robbie and a friend of his over to his friend's house. Out of nowhere, my son said, "I think it would be really cool to swim in jello."

Of course I laughed at such a thought. It was silly and not relevant to anything we were talking about. But there was something fun about thinking about swimming in jello.

Then I thought about his comment. Why don't I think of things like this anymore? Why don't other adults? Then I remembered that Jesus instructed us to have childlike faith.

But what does that mean?

To me it means to live a life with joy, enjoying each and every moment and looking for ways to make any situation fun or finding the good in all circumstances. It means to trust God even though you don't know how He is going to do something--kind of the way a child trusts his mother or father to care for them.

A great reminder for me. Thanks for the lesson Robbie!

"I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it." Mark 10:15

Living Within Your Means

It was revealed recently in a story in Christian Business Daily that a 78 year-old man in Pennsylvania is a multimillionaire. That normally wouldn't be big news except his story is a little different. He never made more than $11 per hour and he has not received any inheritances or large gifts. In addition, he has recently made a couple of large charitable gifts.

He has simply done this by living below his means. So different from the rest of the world. I say, "Good for him!"

Not only has he lived beneath his means, I'll bet he never complained about "only" making $11 per hour. The article said he always worked hard. He could have complained and spent all his money but he quietly saved and did his best. I don't know where this man is in his faith journey, but I do know that he is a great example to many.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--His good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2

Quiet Time

The Friday before Christmas I did something I have never done before but have intended to do for some time now.

For about the past 2-3 years I have intended to spend a day with God-just a day to be quite before Him. However, life always seemed to get in the way so I would always push the date out.

After some challenges from a couple of friends of mine, I finally did it. I went to my sister's cottage and spent the day with God. It was incredible!

I truly felt his presence and had some great conversations with Him. He gave me some clarity about some decisions I need to make and really gave me a peace about some things.

I have to admit this was a very difficult thing for me to do. Spending the day being quiet before God was not tough, but clearing my calendar for a day was brutal. But it was worth it!

I have made a commitment to do this regularly and have scheduled my next two spiritual retreats over the next six months. As my friends did to me, I challenge you to do this sometime this next month. You'll be glad you did!

"Be still, and know that I am God."

Psalm 46:10a

Appreciation

Have you ever had anyone thank you for touching their life? I mean a truly heartfelt thanks? If so, you know how good that can make you feel.

Do you know what I think feels even better than that? Telling someone how much you appreciate them.

I challenge you to write a note, send an email or call someone and tell them how they have impacted your life. This will not only make their day, but you might be surprised how this picks you up.

Watch this 3 minute video. I promise you it will inspire you.

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11

Lead By Example

Does this cartoon ring true of your work environment? Does it ring true of you?

I have experienced some of this during my career and I have to tell you, it drives me crazy!

This type of attitude is contagious. It can infect an entire organization.

If you work at a place like this, you can make a difference. Even if you are not in a position of leadership by title, you are still a leader. With persistence and perseverance, if you continually do what you say you are going to do, others will start to take notice. Colossians 3:23 tells us, "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart as working for the Lord, not for men." One way to live this verse out is to fulfill your commitments.

If you are the leader of an organization and this is taking place, it is probably because you do this yourself. Remember, people will do what you do rather than what you say. Lead by example!

Giving of Yourself

Many gifts were given and many received in our household this Christmas. However, one gift stood out to me this year.

My son Robbie (11), was contemplating what to get for his parents and his two sisters. He only had $25 which he had saved from his allowance money. This past weekend, he went upstairs and made cards for each of us on the computer. Then he came down and put envelopes with each of our names under our tree.

When it came time to open gifts, he proudly presented each of us with our envelope. Inside was a very thoughtful card along with some money. He gave me $5 and each of his sisters $5 and his mom $10. He had given everything he had to us.

That is the true spirit of Christmas. My son gets it. He put all selfishness aside and gave of himself fully this Christmas. How cool is that!

Merry Christmas

I won't be posting for a few days so I wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas!

Dilbert Leadership

An article in today's Toledo Blade talked about a worker who had posted a "Dilbert" cartoon on the company's bulletin board. Apparently, the management team did not think it was very funny as they felt the worker was poking fun at them so they sued him. However, the judge found in favor of the worker.

I can see management's point. I agree that employees need to show respect and submit to the authority of their supervisor.

However, I believe that management (the leadership) needs to lead in such so as to not provide employees an opportunity to find a cartoon that shows their leadership style. Management needs to earn the respect of their employees.

In the case pointed out in this article, my bet is that the cartoon was probably a pretty close depiction of how these employees were being led. Rather than sue an employee for posting a cartoon, the management team should have looked inwardly and used this as a wake-up call to see how they were leading and what they needed to change.

Rock Solid Leadership

I believe that leadership is a spiritual gift from God. Some receive it and others receive other gifts. However, I also believe that each of us is a leader. Each of us is influencing someone, someplace. By definition that makes us a leader.

I encourage you to watch this 3 minute video which summarizes this very well - click here.

More Political Correctness

Did you happen to see this? This appeared in the Christian Post:

Barbara Walters recently criticized a Christmas card she received from the White House this year for featuring a seven-line scripture from the Bible.

The card, signed by the President and Mrs. Bush, was among a small stack of Christmas cards showcased by Walters on last Thursday’s episode of ABC’s “The View.”

“Usually in the past when I have received a Christmas card, it's been 'Happy Holidays' and so on,” said Walters.

But the veteran anchor expressed dismay that President Bush and the First Lady would send out a “religious Christmas card” with a direct Bible verse from the Old Testament printed inside:

“You alone are the LORD. You made the heavens, even the highest heavens, and all their starry host, the earth and all that is on it, the seas and all that is in them. You give life to everything, and the multitudes of heaven worship you.”

After reading the scriptural message of the card, Walters asked in a critical tone, "Does this also go to agnostics, and atheists, and Muslims?"

"Don't you think it's a little interesting,” continued Walters in her questioning, “that the president of all the people is sending out a religious Christmas card?"

The card, which was paid for by the Republican National Committee, closes: “May the joy of all creation fill your heart this blessed season 2007."

This sort of thing is ridiculous.

I acknowledge President and Mrs. Bush for sticking to their Christian values and not wavering despite the heat they receive. As leaders we all must do that despite the cost.

Lead By Example

I don't hide the fact that I am a huge Ohio State fan. That's why I was thrilled to read this excerpt in a magazine about the Buckeye's head football coach, Jim Tressel:

Ohio State Linebackers coach Luke Fickell arrived at the Woody Hayes Athletics Center a few seconds after his boss one morning earlier this year. Then he watched Tressel, walking in the front door in front of him, picking up trash on his way to the door.

"And I'm looking around like I'd better find something to pick up, too," Fickell said. "If he is picking up trash, I mean, what kind of example is that? Just little things like that every day lets you know it's about people, it's about doing the right thing, it's about being a good person."

Cool stuff. Something we can all learn from!

Quotes

I think we can learn in a lot of different ways. One of my favorite ways to learn is to listen to or read something written by others, especially those who are in the game, doing the right things. I also love to read quotes--little nuggets that can help change your life.

I stumbled on this neat video which shares some great quotes from famous leaders. I hope it inspires you! Click here.

The Scandal of Christmas

If you have read the Christmas story from the gospels of Matthew and Luke, you know that it was scandalous. A young unmarried woman was pregnant. Her fiance knew he was not the father. Should he stay with her or leave her?

And then, a King was born.

I just read of a movement that is catching on throughout the world that is encouraging Christians and their churches to restore the “scandal” of Christmas by observing the holiday more authentically.

They suggest buying simpler, more personal gifts that foster relationships rather than fuel the materialistic machine that Christmas has become. A great idea.

Click here to read the article.

True Friendship

Check this out--friendship in any language...

Wouldn't you like a friend like that? I challenge you to be that friend to someone - after all the best way to get a friend like that is to be one yourself!

If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Ecclesiastes 4:10

Political Correctness - No Thanks!

What do you think of when you think of someone from an organization called the Equality and Human Rights Commission? I have to admit my first thought is of someone who is all about "political correctness" which makes my skin crawl.

That's why I was pleasantly surprised to read this in a recent Reuters article in London:

It's time to stop being daft about Christmas. It's fine to celebrate and it's fine for Christ to be star of the show," said Trevor Phillips, chairman of the Equality and Human Rights Commission.

"Let's stop being silly about a Christian Christmas," he said, referring to a tendency to play down the traditional celebrations of the birth of Christ for fear of offending minorities in multicultural Britain.

Way to go Trevor! I could not agree more!

Responding

I am a big believer that all circumstances work out for good, even if we can't see it at the time. In fact one of my favorite bible verses tells us this is true if we "...love God and are called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28) In other words, God never wastes a hurt.

Zig Ziglar wrote something along these lines that was too good not to share:

When you respond to life, that's positive; when you react to life, that's negative. Example: you get sick and go to the doctor. Chances are good that after an examination he or she would give you a prescription with instructions to return in several days. When you walk back in if the doctor starts shaking his head and says, "It looks like your body is reacting to the medicine, we're going to have to change it," you probably would get a little nervous. However, if the doctor smiled and said, "You're looking great! Your body is responding to the medication," you would get excited and feel much better. Yes, responding to life is good. Reacting to the incidents of life is negative - and that's bad. The next example validates that fact.

Today there's much turmoil in the job market and many people are losing their jobs through downsizing, mergers and takeovers. This creates some unusual "opportunities" for many people. One positive from this is that in the last five years, according to the Wall Street Journal, over fifteen million new businesses have been created, well over half of them by women. Interestingly, very few of these women had any marketable skills and all of them had great financial need. Most of the new businesses were "trust" businesses, meaning that the women collected the money before they delivered the goods or services. The Journal comments that virtually none of these women have been prosecuted and jailed for failure to deliver on that trust. That's exciting!

Many of these new businesses - possibly most of them - would never have been started had not an unfortunate event occurred in these people's lives. When those events did occur and needs became obvious, these women chose to respond and there's little doubt that many of them are better off now than they were before the "tragedy" took place.

The message is clear: If you will respond to life instead of react to it, then I've got a much better chance of seeing you AT THE TOP!

You've Got To Be Kidding Me

Did you see this? This appeared in the Spokane, Washington newspaper:

Crosses to be removed from police chaplain badges

By Karen Dorn Steele
Staff writer
December 5, 2007

Crosses will be removed from badges worn by Spokane Police chaplains under terms of an out-of-court settlement between the city and a former Lutheran pastor-turned-atheist who sued over the government agency’s use of the insignias and Christian prayers.
Additionally, lawyers from the Center for Justice who represented former pastor Ray Ideus will get $1,000.

“It’s a milestone,” said Ideus, who volunteers eight hours a week with the police department. “It’s very important that they’ll have to take that cross off. It’s not a Christian police department. The chaplains have to minister to all faiths – and non-faiths,” Ideus said.

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Absolutely ridiculous. Wasn't our country founded on Christian principles? Wasn't Christianity one of the main driving forces behind the founding fathers risking all to start this country?

We must "Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one." (Ephesians 6:14-17)

Life is a Mist

This has been a sad week. Two days ago I learned about a guy who was the friend of my next door neighbor who was in his 30s and passed away. Yesterday morning, I learned about a friend of mine who had a baby boy who died two days later. Yesterday early evening, I received a call from a friend and neighbor telling me that his wife had just passed away.

The thing that was in common with all of these was how quickly they all happened. My neighbor's friend died after a few days in the hospital-prior to that he appeared fine. My friend's son died after living only two days. My friend's wife had been diagnosed with cancer only three weeks ago.

Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. James 4:14

How true.

It is a shame that it takes tragedy in our lives and in the lives of those we know to make us realize what James is telling us.

Our life is but a mist. We must take advantage of this day God has given us. We must lead like crazy. We must love like crazy.

Carpe Diem!

Smile

Is this picture awesome or what!

It reminded me of two things. One, of how much God loves us.

And two, of something we can do each day to make us more effective leaders. It is something I have never seen written in a leadership book. It is something that is not taught in any leadership classes. Yet it can be very powerful.

The thing we can do to help us be more effective leaders is simply to smile. Try it. You'll find that it will help you to be a more positive leader and it will help others want to follow you more.

Choices

As many of you know Zig Ziglar is a favorite author and speaker of mine. He has a way of saying things that make the complex understandable including this regarding the choices we all have in our lives:

Our success in life is determined by the choices we make. You are going to be making choices that will determine your success as you learn to manage yourself and others. To be effective in making proper choices, you must understand the difference between reacting and responding.

Let’s say you go to the doctor, who then gives you a prescription and tells you to come back the next day. When you go back, if he looks worried and tells you he needs to change the prescription because your body is reacting to the medicine, you’re probably going to be concerned. On the other hand, if he tells you your body is responding to the medicine, you’re going to smile because you know you’re on your way to recovery. So, to react is negative and to respond is positive – the choice is yours! It’s a fact that you can’t tailor-make the situations in life, but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.

There are some things that are simply not going to change. If you were born white, you’re going to stay white. If you were born black, you’re going to stay black. I don’t care how much thought you give it, you’re not going to add a single cubit to your height. You’re not going to change when you were born, where you were born, how you were born, or to whom you were born. However, you can choose how you will respond to all of life’s circumstances. All of life is a series of choices. Realize that every choice we make, whether it is good or bad, has consequences! You can choose to get drunk tonight, but when you do, you have chosen to feel miserable tomorrow. You can choose to eat properly today, and when you do, you have chosen to be healthier. All the circumstances in your life will not be positive. You must choose to respond to both the positive and the negative.

As a leader in your organization others can tell a lot about you by how you respond, or react, to the little nuisances that crop up in your day as well as the big obstacles that come along. Lead in such a way that causes others to make wise choices and benefit from those choices.

Pride Before The Fall

On Saturday I was a very interested observer of some of the college football games. Even though my team, the Ohio State Buckeyes weren't playing, their fate lied int he balance. If Missouri lost to Oklahoma or if West Virginia lost to Pittsburgh, then the Buckeyes would play for the BCS National Title.

As I watched ESPN's College Gameday that morning, the announcers all said the same thing regarding the chances of West Virginia losing. They all said it was impossible. They were debating how big they would win--by 5 or 6 touchdowns.

Kirk Herbstreit even went on to say something like this, "Congratulations West Virginia, you are headed to New Orleans to play for the National Championship!"

Later that evening, West Virginia (and Missouri) found themselves on the short end of the score.

While I was thrilled with the outcomes of these games, I was reminded of the times when my pride has preceded a fall for me. Pretty painful stuff. But a good reminder to us all.

Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

Leadership Video

Here is a short video I stumbled upon that discusses leadership: click here to view. I hope you enjoy!

Asking For Conflict

I read an article recently about a business owner named Sean Perich who started a business (Bakery Barn) five years ago that is now booming. The same management team has been in place over that time span, but he is now discovering that may be a problem.

"At a certain point, guts and hard work stop paying dividends," Perich admits. He says he now finds himself suffering from "good idea-itis"—a problem when none of his managers or directors were willing to curb his enthusiasm. "If I say, 'Let's spend time developing protein drinks,' they say, 'Great'—they won't question me," Perich says. He worries that time spent developing products like protein drinks and savory snacks has been a distraction—that perhaps Bakery Barn has strayed too far from what it does best: baking protein cookies.

What he is asking for is conflict. Not a fight, but someone to stand up to him, to challenge him, to hold him accountable and to help him be better. It takes someone who is pretty secure to admit this. He is a wise leader who knows his limitations and is looking for others to complete him, to make him better. (Go here to read the entire story).

When I evaluate myself, I feel I do OK at this in some areas of my life, but in other areas I don't do so hot--like at home. How are you at this?

Where Are You?

Yesterday afternoon I was traveling to Gatlinburg, Tennessee to lead a leadership workshop. I usually fly out of Detroit but the flight was almost $300 less expensive if I flew out of Toledo and connected in Detroit (This has happened many times and I still don’t understand it—I’m using more of the airline’s service, yet it costs less!).

Anyway, as we approached the gate in Detroit, we sat on the tarmac for awhile. Finally, the captain announced the reason for our delay. Apparently Detroit’s airport had many people not show up for work on Monday. This meant they only had 4 employees to manage 38 passenger ramps. He went on to tell us this is a regular occurrence the day after a holiday weekend.

How sad.

Two things struck me as sad. One, that the captain would share that with his customers. It seemed like he was “passing the buck.” Even though that was the truth, customers don’t want to hear this finger pointing. This is poor customer service.

Second, it is a shame what is happening in this country. Overall, work is not valued like it once was. As a result, many people don’t treat it as a serious commitment. In this case it caused hundreds, if not thousands of people to miss connecting flights or to be inconvenienced.

Work is a privilege. We were made by God to work (Genesis 2:15). So let’s do our best to enjoy it and live up to our responsibilities.

In case you were wondering…I did make my connection, but only because it too was delayed—one of the few times I was happy with a delay!

When No One is Looking...

Steve Marr writes the following about integrity when no one is looking:

Some businesspeople practice integrity when compelled or when customers are watching. Others practice integrity when they believe no one is watching.

I had a neighbor who would walk his dog. He carried a small plastic bag to scoop up the droppings, as required by the homeowner's association. One day I was reading and glanced out the window to see the dog leaving a deposit. My neighbor looked around to see if anyone was watching, then left the poop there and walked away. At that moment, I came to understand that my neighbor lacked integrity.

In business, we can also lose our integrity, and often with drastic results.

John Dodge, a founder of Dodge Motor Company, put it clearly, "There is no twilight zone in business, a thing is right or it's wrong — it's black or it's white." The choice we have is to accept and act on this truth ... or not. King Solomon wrote, "He who walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will be found out" (Proverbs 10:9 NASB).

We may not always see the result of our integrity, but consequences will follow. An auto dealer was doing warranty repairs and was receiving replacement parts from the manufacturer. In some instances, the broken part was repaired instead of replaced and the new part was then sold to other customers, thus generating more profit for the auto dealership. This practice went on for years, but was eventually uncovered. The result: the owner was convicted of fraud, the manufacturer revoked the franchise, and the owner was forced into bankruptcy.

The prophet Nahum wrote, "The Lord will by no means leave the guilty unpunished" (Nahum 1:3 NASN). If we accept this truth from Scripture, then we must obediently apply integrity in everything we do.

Walter was a contractor doing a small addition for a young couple, Ellen and Mike. He realized he made a mistake on the bid and left out a $2,500 item, costing him the profit on the job. Walter honored his price and explained to the couple he had made a mistake, but that he did not expect them to pay for it. He was not aware that Mike's dad was a major real-estate developer. After Mike's dad learned of the experience, he contacted the builder and gave him several large construction jobs, based on the integrity experienced by his son. This verifies the truth, "He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful in much, and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing in unrighteous also in much" (Luke 16:10 NASB).

Go here to read the rest.

Happy Thanksgiving

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

I am very thankful for each and every one of you. I hope you enjoy your day!

Jim

Power Rangers

An article I just read in Promo Magazine discussed the ongoing popularity of the Power Rangers, who turn 15 this year.

The reason for their longevity?

"The brand has reached pop culture status by maintaining its core values of honesty, loyalty, teamwork and standing up for what's right," says Brenda Lynch, senior vice president, The Rogers Group, Bandai America's PR Agency. "These core values resonate as strongly as they did 15 years ago."

In this day of Hollywood and sports stars being glorified for their lack of values, it sure is refreshing to see this.

We Can All Make A Difference

We are all leaders...every one of us. We all influence someone. It doesn't matter if your title is not that of a leader, you can lead and you can make a difference. This short video is a great example of that. I hope it inspires you like it inspired me. Take the next 3 minutes to watch--I promise you, you will be glad you did! Click here for the video.

The Little Things

Yesterday afternoon my son, Robbie and I raked leaves. We are fortunate where we live as we are able to burn leaves which makes it kind of fun (my son and I have a pyro streak in us!).

Anyway, the leaves were a little damp from the previous day's rain so they didn't burn real well; however, they did burn well enough to get rid of them. About two hours after starting the fire it was just smoking and I figured it would eventually burn out.

This morning as I left for work, I noticed a flame in the pile of leaves. I was amazed. 14 hours after starting the fire it was still burning. There must have been a couple of embers that kept up the good fight and this morning they caused an actual flame to appear.

This was an encouragement to me. Sometimes I feel like the small things I do day in and day out don't really matter. But this fire reminded me that even the seemingly inconsequential things can develop into something important if I just stick with it.

Leading By Example

I just read an article about Steve Nash, the flashy Canadian point guard of the Phoenix Suns. His coach, Mike D’Antoni said something about him that was pretty cool.

“When your superstar’s your hardest working guy—by far—well, then you’ve got a chance to do something special.”

Leading by example…what a novel concept.

Serving Him Where We Are

I just read an email devotional this morning that was very good. It talked about the fact that we do not have to leave our jobs to serve God. So many of us feel that in order to truly serve God we must become a pastor or a missionary.

God has designed us each with unique gifts. He wants us to use these gifts where we are today to serve Him regardless of what it is we do for a living. So how can we do that?

I have developed a program to help people with this very topic. If you would like to learn more and find out about a cool free trial opportunity (including a free copy of my book), go to http://www.bleedership.com/.

Make it a great day!

The Great Communicator

Ronald Reagan was known as the "Great Communicator." He had a way with words.

I just received an email I felt I should share. One, because we just paused to celebrate Veterans' Day in this country, to remember those who have sacrificed so much for us. Two, because there are some great nuggets of truth that we all can learn from in these words from this great leader, Ronald Reagan after he laid a wreath at the Tomb of The Unknown Soldier in Arlington Cemetery on November 11, 1985:

We are gathered at the National Cemetery, which provides a final resting place for the heroes who have defended our country since the Civil War. This amphitheater, this place for speeches, is more central to this cemetery than it first might seem apparent, for all we can ever do for our heroes is remember them and remember what they did -- and memories are transmitted through words. Sometime back I received in the name of our country the bodies of four marines who had died while on active duty. I said then that there is a special sadness that accompanies the death of a serviceman, for we're never quite good enough to them -- not really; we can't be, because what they gave us is beyond our powers to repay. And so, when a serviceman dies, it's a tear in the fabric, a break in the whole, and all we can do is remember.

It is, in a way, an odd thing to honor those who died in defense of our country, in defense of us, in wars far away. The imagination plays a trick. We see these soldiers in our mind as old and wise. We see them as something like the Founding Fathers, grave and gray haired. But most of them were boys when they died, and they gave up two lives -- the one they were living and the one they would have lived. When they died, they gave up their chance to be husbands and fathers and grandfathers. They gave up their chance to be revered old men. They gave up everything for our country, for us. And all we can do is remember.

There's always someone who is remembering for us. No matter what time of year it is or what time of day, there are always people who come to this cemetery, leave a flag or a flower or a little rock on a headstone. And they stop and bow their heads and communicate what they wished to communicate. They say, ``Hello, Johnny,'' or ``Hello, Bob. We still think of you. You're still with us. We never got over you, and we pray for you still, and we'll see you again. We'll all meet again.'' In a way, they represent us, these relatives and friends, and they speak for us as they walk among the headstones and remember. It's not so hard to summon memory, but it's hard to recapture meaning.

And the living have a responsibility to remember the conditions that led to the wars in which our heroes died. Perhaps we can start by remembering this: that all of those who died for us and our country were, in one way or another, victims of a peace process that failed; victims of a decision to forget certain things; to forget, for instance, that the surest way to keep a peace going is to stay strong. Weakness, after all, is a temptation -- it tempts the pugnacious to assert themselves -- but strength is a declaration that cannot be misunderstood. Strength is a condition that declares actions have consequences. Strength is a prudent warning to the belligerent that aggression need not go unanswered.

Peace fails when we forget what we stand for. It fails when we forget that our Republic is based on firm principles, principles that have real meaning, that with them, we are the last, best hope of man on Earth; without them, we're little more than the crust of a continent. Peace also fails when we forget to bring to the bargaining table God's first intellectual gift to man: common sense. Common sense gives us a realistic knowledge of human beings and how they think, how they live in the world, what motivates them. Common sense tells us that man has magic in him, but also clay. Common sense can tell the difference between right and wrong. Common sense forgives error, but it always recognizes it to be error first.

We endanger the peace and confuse all issues when we obscure the truth; when we refuse to name an act for what it is; when we refuse to see the obvious and seek safety in the Almighty. Peace is only maintained and won by those who have clear eyes and brave minds. Peace is imperiled when we forget to try for agreements and settlements and treaties; when we forget to hold out our hands and strive; when we forget that God gave us talents to use in securing the ends He desires. Peace fails when we forget that agreements, once made, cannot be broken without a price.

Each new day carries within it the potential for breakthroughs, for progress. Each new day bursts with possibilities. And so, hope is realistic and despair a pointless little sin. And peace fails when we forget to pray to the source of all peace and life and happiness. I think sometimes of General Matthew Ridgeway, who, the night before D-day, tossed sleepless on his cot and talked to the Lord and listened for the promise that God made to Joshua: ``I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.''

We're surrounded today by the dead of our wars. We owe them a debt we can never repay. All we can do is remember them and what they did and why they had to be brave for us. All we can do is try to see that other young men never have to join them. Today, as never before, we must pledge to remember the things that will continue the peace. Today, as never before, we must pray for God's help in broadening and deepening the peace we enjoy. Let us pray for freedom and justice and a more stable world. And let us make a compact today with the dead, a promise in the words for which General Ridgeway listened, ``I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.''

In memory of those who gave the last full measure of devotion, may our efforts to achieve lasting peace gain strength. And through whatever coincidence or accident of timing, I tell you that a week from now when I am some thousands of miles away, believe me, the memory and the importance of this day will be in the forefront of my mind and in my heart.

Thank you. God bless you all, and God bless America.

Nehemiah

Did you happen to see this? Archaeologists have discovered remnants of the wall that Nehemiah helped to build around Jerusalem. Cool stuff!

I encourage you to study the story of Nehemiah in the Bible. A lot can be learned from him in regard to leadership, including compassion, vision, respect of authority, humility, leaning on God, persistence and calmness under pressure to name a few.

Click here to read more.

Leading Through Failure

As many of you know I am an Ohio State football fan. I was in Columbus on Saturday when the Buckeyes were beaten by Illinois. Ohio State truly was beaten. Sure there were some mistakes by the Buckeyes and the officials, but make no mistake about it-Illinois deserved to win.

As hard as it was to take the loss for me, I know it is 100 times tougher for the players. Kirk Barton who is a senior captain had this to say:

"You just feel like a failure as a captain when you lose a game like this," said Barton, the only fifth-year senior on the team, and a co-captain. "You hope you can lead your guys out of the murky waters we were in. I take a lot of responsibility for that.

"You feel like a failure if you can't get a win on Senior Day. It takes a little bit away from your captaincy if you can't lead your team the way you need to. ... I hope you print this because I want all the young guys to remember how it feels for my Senior Day."

That is so refreshing to hear. No finger pointing, no excuses. Simply taking responsibility. Now that's leadership.

Wow You're Tall!

George Bell

I get that a lot—“Wow, you're tall!" Those of you who know me know that I am 6' 8" tall (or 5' 20" as I tell people). As a result, when I enter a public place like a restaurant, I see people whisper and then heads turn to look at me.

I suppose that might make some people self-conscious, but I like it. It is a great conversation starter.

I just read about the tallest person in the US, named George Bell. He has a great attitude about this. He is 7' 8" tall (a full foot taller than me!). Of how he feels about being tall, George said, "I have no choice but to like it."

He went on to give credit to his late great-aunt, Etonia Johnson, with his positive attitude: "She always told me, 'Don't feel ashamed of yourself. Stand tall. God made you. Be happy and show your pride.' "

What great words of advice for all of us, especially those who feel they are "less than" or don't measure up.

To read more about George, go here.

Comparing to Others

I wrote in one of my last newsletters about feeling like I did not belong on my college basketball team. We had some great players on our team and I sometimes felt like I didn't measure up. I went on to write that we all have gifts and we are to use them to serve God. We are not to compare ourselves to others (which I was doing).

Well, I am in beautiful Marco Island, Florida this morning and I am preparing to speak at a prayer breakfast for a hardware convention. At dinner last night the organizer mentioned to me that past speakers at this event have included Zig Ziglar and Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.

I had those feelings all over again...those feelings of "So why am I speaking here? I can't measure up to these giants."

As I prepare for this morning I am taking my own advice. I am going to do the best I can and do it for God.

Those Who Irritate You

We all have at least one person in our lives who irritates us...and they usually sit near us at work.

RedLetterBelievers had a great post yesterday about how these people can actually be placed in our lives to help us to grow--to help us develop into the person God wants us to become.

Check it out here.

Your Company's Business Plan

In 1923, Time Magazine warned of "the possible advent of a New Ice Age."

In 1939, Time warned of "Global Warming."

In 1974, Time warned of "another Ice Age coming."

In 2006, Time declared "The debate is over. Global Warming is upon us."

Sometimes it is hard to know what is truth and what is made up to sell magazines and papers. The same is true for all the different management techniques that are touted as the next great thing.

There is only one way to know if any new method is right or not and that is to stand it up to the Bible--even if this deals with work. If it aligns with Scripture, then you can know this is good and it is Truth. If not, you know you can discard it.

Lion's Roar

No one could have predicted the turnaround the Detroit Lions have made this season. The season is only halfway done and they still have a long way to go, but anyone looking at this team knows there is something different going on.

In the Fellowship of Christian Athlete's monthly magazine Share the Victory, they reveal some of what is happening. One of the primary changes was that the team acquired quarterback Jon Kitna from the Cincinnati Bengals. Jon is known as a great Christian leader.

These are the words of team chaplain, Dave Wilson:

“When Jon came in, the entire locker room started to tilt toward his locker—his and Josh McCown’s,” said Wilson. “The thing that led people to want to hang out with him was joy. He was laughing all the time. He and McCown were playing games. There was just this joy factor that I don’t think most people see in Christians. I would walk in the locker room and everybody would be over by Jon. Even the loudest guys in the locker room were hanging out with Kitna. And I was like, ‘You know why they’re over there? Because they are attracted to joy.’”

It wasn’t long before that joy turned into camaraderie, which turned into team unity, which turned into a spiritual momentum that no one could have predicted.

We don't need to be on a football team to have the same impact on others. Let's live with a joy that is contagious--it can really make a difference!

Loving Those Who Make You Mad

If you are like me, there are people you work with you make you mad. You know, the ones who know just the right things to say or do (or not do) to set you off.

So how are we supposed to act toward these people? Can we do anything to change them?

The Bible tells us we are to love our enemies. But how can this help?

David Jeremiah shares this story which sheds some light on this:

In the mid 1930s, a German Protestant pastor was abducted from his church. Suspected of aiding and abetting Jews, he was thrown into prison without a hearing, a trial, or even a phone call to his family. The prison guard outside his cell hated everyone associated with Jews and purposefully skipped the pastor's cell when meals were handed out, made him go weeks without a shower, and gave him the most difficult job on the labor gang. The pastor, on the other hand, prayed that he would be able to love this guard with God's love. As the months went by, the pastor smiled at the guard, thanked him for the few meals he did receive, and even got to talk about Agape love. The guard never said anything; but he heard it all, and one night he cracked a smile. The next day the pastor received two meals and was able to shower for as long as he wanted. Finally, one afternoon the guard personally made the long-awaited call to the pastor's family, and a few months later, he was released.

It is against our human nature to love someone like that prison guard; but through His power, God can give us the ability to love the unlovables.

Treating them poorly because they are treating us poorly is what our human nature tells us to do. However, this will not help to change them. Only by showing them Christ's love can they be changed.